Why care what others think

5th April 2012

Before I became a business coach, around 10 years ago, I was always very aware of what other people might think of me, my image or the things I do. And even for a year or two after that I was still extremely conscious of how people perceived me. This could have had a very limiting effect on my business and what I achieved with it, had I not learned to stop worrying about other people’s opinions.

The problem is, if you spend your life worrying about what others think, you tend to avoid risk taking, or going out on a limb, in case people laugh at you. However, this can also mean basic business principles, such as asking for the order, doing seminars, or following up your leads, are avoided because once again you may be afraid of the reaction you get.

As I have grown older I have learnt to understand that it doesn’t matter what the other people think, because I need to do whatever it takes to achieve my goals and dreams. If other people think I am strange because of it, that is their problem not mine.

Now I am not advocating rudeness, or total lack of regard or respect for others, but more an understanding that you should live your life for you and your nearest and dearest’s ends, not just to please others. Too many people never say or do what they really want to, for fear of upsetting people, and as a result stay unsatisfied or even unhappy all their lives.

If you have goals and dreams, you have to work hard to achieve them, and often this may mean doing things which others consider pushy or which make them feel uncomfortable. However, the more you work on these things, and the more you do to make your life and business how you envisioned it, the greater your self belief and confidence becomes, bringing you contentment and security.

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